toxic people & toxic things.

letting go of something or someone toxic is the hardest thing to do. it’s no surprise that our generation revolves around nothing but toxic people and toxic mindsets and toxic items. we are dependent on drugs to help fill a void we have. (& sometimes that drug is another person). we cant let go of the people we need to let go of because they make us feel some kind of satisfaction.

but, my therapist asked me the other day, “what’s the definition of doing something over & over knowing you’ll get the same outcome?” and i couldn’t answer, so he replied “insanity.” if a scientist constantly tries the same chemicals hoping to get a different outcome, he’s insane. the only difference between chemicals and people are, people can change. we can mix the same chemicals over & get the same outcome, but we, as humans, are emotional beings. we can change. therefore, we try to work something out just one more time in hopes our changes or their changes... will change the outcome. here’s the thing though.. it almost never does. ever. & we know this. so, we are left with years of constant disappointment we could have chose to let go of but didn’t.

we have to learn that even though we are hopeful & optimistic & open minded about certain situations, there is always going to be that chance nothing changes, so we will be left with the same outcome. we will be left sad. or disappointed. or depressed. or whatever else your emotions lead you to. we have to learn how to change our mindsets & stop being “insane” & know when enough is enough.

some situations will be absolutely harder to finally let go of than others. you’ll check your phone obsessively hoping to get a call, text, snapchat, any notification from that one person you need to avoid at all costs. the one person who makes you feel like your heart skips a beat. the one person you know is no good for you. and some days, you’ll receive that notification. it’s in our benefit to know, it’s not worth replying to anymore.

toxic things can only control us if we let them. we have to control the things we can control in ways that will eventually only benefit us.. no matter how hard it is.